As two mature individuals, in a relationship, you understand that there has to be a give and a take. You learn this in all relationships: lovers, friends, family, coworkers, teammates, truly the list is endless.
We must understand that in order to make things work, we cannot expect everything we do to be right, correct, the best.
As an individual, you’re able to do everything your way, but when you consciously decide to include someone else in your world, you must learn to soften, understand, be open. You cannot be closed off, guarded, unwilling to look at life events from different perspectives.
Snap judgments hinder your ultimate understanding. It’s imperative to take a step back, breathe and let things marinate in order to be perfectly communicated.
Growth, development, and evolution are how we’ve survived all these years as a human race. We didn’t just stick to what we knew, what we saw, what we believed. We admittedly looked for new ways to go about things, and this is exactly how we must behave when faced with other people.
The way you function, may not be the way someone you love functions. The way you go about your day, may be different than the way your closest friends go about their day. The way you love may be different than the way the person you love loves.
This doesn’t mean that one of you is more correct; it just means you are different. You must understand the meaning of specific actions based off of people’s personalities, and an open medium of communication.
However, this doesn’t excuse bad behavior. Rather, it should be the beginning of how you build your foundation, so that years down the road, you’re able to simply look at the person and know what they’re thinking. An arduous task that will take a lifetime to perfect.
As we mature, search for our partner, and evolve in general it’s important to remember that we aren’t the same person we were a day ago, a year ago, two years ago, or 10 years ago.
Frustrations, arguments and disagreements are usually caused through misunderstandings and poor communication. If we can effectively and honestly say what we mean in a clear and articulate way, we might just have a fighting chance to save our relationships, and more so ourselves in return.
We live. We experience. We learn. We build relationships. We loose some. We keep others for a lifetime and we change.
Source: Health profs.com