You can access pleasure and achieve comfort with your sexual anatomy when you learn to love your clitoris.
A good way to start is to get familiar with your clitoris, as this hot spot can hold the key to your sexual pleasure. If you haven’t yet familiarized yourself with this little pleasure button, consider the following tips:
- Take some you-only moments. Find a place and time when you can be alone and are truly able to enjoy and explore yourself, such as in the bathtub or in your bedroom when everyone’s at work or school, or after the kids are asleep. Set the scene to help yourself get in the mood. It might feel silly to “romance” yourself, but you will be more likely to reach orgasm if you light some candles and play some mood music. Do whatever you can to add to the general mood of seduction and love.
- Start with the mental foreplay. It’s always great to have some “go-to” fantasies at your disposal. This way, you can cull through your mental Rolodex whenever you have the time or inclination to self-stimulate. These fantasies can be as wild as you prefer, whether it’s about your sexy next-door neighbor, a gorgeous celebrity, or even a long-ago ex. Nothing is off-limits in the fantasy realm.
- Let your fingers do the walking. With these sexy images, thoughts, and fantasies at the front of your mind, it’s time to move on to physical foreplay. Start slow by exploring your whole body, stroking, squeezing, or massaging your breasts and/or nipples, stroking all the erogenous zones you can reach, running your fingers along your inner thighs and labia, and finally stimulating your clitoris. Use your index finger to lightly begin applying pressure to your clitoris, slowly and rhythmically rubbing yourself. As you begin to get more aroused, you can intensify your pressure and speed up.
Masturbation is good for your sex life because it helps inform you about your own sexual response and also keeps you “in the zone” — as do sexual fantasies, which put you in an amorous frame of mind, as they help you stay in touch with your inner vixen.
Most importantly, masturbation will keep you in touch with your clitoris and the rest of your sexual anatomy, which means that you will be able to show your partner all the types of strokes and touches you enjoy.
Knowledge is power, especially when it comes to sexual enjoyment! The more you generate and enjoy sexual energy, the more is produced. And the more connected you are to the sensuality of your body, the more sexual and attractive you will feel…. Especially if you and your partner can both be open and secure with masturbation for yourself and for each other.